Over time I’ve constantly sought new goals, trying new things and rarely succeeding in any of them. It’s the expectation that if you want something bad enough, you’ll get it in an instant.
Though that’s not the case.
They say if you want it bad enough, you’ll find a way. Otherwise, you’ll find an excuse and give up.
This all comes down to your mindset you have when looking to achieve. The problem isn’t so much desire as it it knowing how to realise that desire.
Maybe you want to be in that ultimate job or become an expert in guitar. Perhaps you want to be able to run a 4-minute mile or learn to take photos like me!
Your goal isn’t the issue, it’s not even unrealistic, it’s that you’re lacking something vital.
With patience you don’t expect to receive something quickly.
You expect to wait.
You allow yourself to take your time.
And with patience, you find yourself working towards your goal day by day whilst learning to appreciate the process along the way.
If you’re not enjoying the journey, savouring what each day brings you, you won’t appreciate the destination, or even worse, you won’t realise it when you’re there.
Set Small Goals
Once you understand the need for patience with yourself, it’s hard to figure out how to put that into practice. Set yourself small achievable goals with no time frame in which to achieve it, but instead to do something towards it everyday.
For example, I set myself the challenge of reading more. I aimed to read the book, “The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari” by reading it daily. It didn’t matter if I read one word or 20 pages. What mattered is that I opened the book and saw the inside.
Over time I found myself reading more pages each time. I even ended up taking it with me on my explorations as I became more excited about what would come next.
Then on Tuesday when I went on a hike, I ended up losing it about ten pages before I would have finished it. My heart dropped when I discovered my loss (though hopefully someone finds it and it becomes their gain).
In the past, this would have made me given up. Instead I bought the book again. I finished it in a total of just over two weeks.
Build yourself a little habit, that’s good for your future, because it builds up until it becomes something incredible.
It is vital though, that you have a little patience with yourself.